One Small Change

In this new year, could you change this one thing?

Could you use the voice of a friend when speaking to yourself?

Could you encourage yourself when facing challenges? Could you refuse to call yourself names, and instead, choose terms of endearment?

How hard would it be to say, “Lovely, you’ve had a hard day. You deserve a restful night’s sleep”? Or “Sweetheart, I love that you tried to stay sober today. We’re going to keep trying, no matter the setbacks.”

And could you go a step further? Could you love yourself like you would a child? Could you treat everything you’ve ever done wrong (in your view) as simply a mistake? A learning experience? Would you fault a child for stumbling as she learns to walk?

Could you let go of the idea of guilt, and instead rely on the love you find within to heal and comfort you?

Could you do it for one day? Could you try?

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” 

– Buddha

DO IT.

If you’re looking for a sign, THIS IS IT!

Time to give yourself 31 days to HEAL your body and your mind. I’m here with two people (regular drinkers) who are dedicated to an alcohol-free January. You don’t have to struggle with whether or not you’re a problem drinker. Do it anyway. Dedicate yourself to this, and the magic will filter over to everything you touch in the New Year. Make a difference in your own life. YOU are what you’ve been waiting for!

There are resources everywhere for groups to guide you through this. I’ll be posting some later as well.

Here’s to a REAL New Years’ instead of a repeat of the old.

Be determined to be not as you were.

— somewhere in A Course in Miracles

Claudia Christan’s Ted Talk on Naltrexone

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Interesting Ted Talk from actress Claudia Christan, and how she stopped drinking.

I have no personal experience with Naltrexone, but I’ve heard from other people (mostly in Europe) that say the drug helped them tremendously. I have no idea if it’s widely prescribed in the US, but it does seem to have promising results.

Claudia Christan  Tedx London

The Danger of Justified Anger

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After a difficult marriage and divorce, I thrived on anger. Somehow, the anger felt like power in a situation where I had very little of it. It wasn’t until I read A Return to Love that I knew there was a downside to what I saw as perfectly justified anger. Here’s a great article from The Elephant describing one women’s anger toward her father:

The Danger of Justified Anger.

(You may have to give an email address to read articles from The Elephant.)

You Don’t Need to Explain Yourself

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How much time did I waste wondering how something I wanted to do would affect other people? Perfect example: For years I worried about inconveniencing friends because I had quit drinking. How would I explain it to them?

What a waste of time.

Today, my reading from the book A Year Without Fear addressed this perfectly:

Today, you do not need to explain yourself to others.

You do not have to explain your journey or courageous faith to others. If you were giving birth, you wouldn’t take time to make others feel comfortable and secure. You would be doing what your nature demands. You’d focus on the task at hand, the evolutionary impulse. You’d attend to your own needs. A new life will speak for itself.

— Tama Kieves,  A Year Without Fear

Who’s Driving Your Car?

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Cooped up in my house, my thoughts seem to be all over the map. I can’t divert myself with friends, wandering stores, or yoga classes. Dealing with my own thoughts has been the biggest challenge of my life. But it’s also the one thing that changed my life so profoundly.

Pam Grout described how she handles these thoughts in her blog here. For those who don’t know, she lost her only daughter, Taz, this year, but has continued on her amazing spiritual journey.

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Here is a photo of Pam with her daughter.

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