You Don’t Need to Explain Yourself

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How much time did I waste wondering how something I wanted to do would affect other people? Perfect example: For years I worried about inconveniencing friends because I had quit drinking. How would I explain it to them?

What a waste of time.

Today, my reading from the book A Year Without Fear addressed this perfectly:

Today, you do not need to explain yourself to others.

You do not have to explain your journey or courageous faith to others. If you were giving birth, you wouldn’t take time to make others feel comfortable and secure. You would be doing what your nature demands. You’d focus on the task at hand, the evolutionary impulse. You’d attend to your own needs. A new life will speak for itself.

— Tama Kieves,  A Year Without Fear

12 thoughts on “You Don’t Need to Explain Yourself

    1. I think drinking leads us to accommodate people in ridiculous ways. One of the most exciting things I’ve received through sobriety is a strong sense of self again. I think about my own needs first. It’s NOT SELFISH. It’s survival, and learning to put your sobriety above everything else.

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