Success! The 30-Year Plan to Sobriety


So so many of you have asked me “Wow, you have over one year of sobriety! What’s your secret??” So I’ve decided to share my sobriety plan for FREE because I am that evolved spiritually, now that I am no longer lunching on wine.

This plan is simple, easy to follow, and fool-proof!

To begin, choose a starting date. Then set aside 30 years or so (more if you’re a slow learner). Go out and buy your first six-pack. You are now ready to … LAUNCH!

DAY 1: You are young!

Call up some beer-swilling friends. (A quick shout out to Lisa, Carly, Dan! You know who you are!) Invite them to meet you at the local pub.

Have a “Get Ready Beer,”  because a friend has taught you that this really takes the pressure off getting the bartender’s attention for that first drink. Plus, it’s one less beer you have to buy at an exorbitant price.

Drive to the pub.

Throw yourself completely into group mentality thinking. Use the group’s mood to guide your behavior. NEVER be that sullen person refusing to order a drink, which often drags down the rest of the group. Learn to keep up! When drinking lulls or people want to go home, always suggest one more round.

Earn a reputation for fun! When you reach the witching hour (that magic time of night when a decision must be made to go home or not, because maybe the bar is about to close or it’s a school night), speak up! Loudly yell “One more round!” Order shots for the table.

Drive home. TIP: If you have that pesky double-vision, cover one eye and concentrate on keeping to the RIGHT of the center line. Drive to the LEFT of the center line if you are in the UK, Australia, Honk Kong, or South Africa. If you’re not sure which rules apply, don’t drive.

Day 2

If you made it home and are not too hungover, go to school or work. If you didn’t make it home, try to locate your car. If you find it, drive it home.

If you are unemployed or have been fired, lucky you! Sleep it off.

Call your friends around 5 PM (or whenever you wake up) to commiserate and find out what all you did. TIP: NEVER make this call before drinking the Get Ready Beer. You can’t laugh it off without a buzz.

Meet up again. Same place. Same people. Same time.

Day 3 through Year 10: Build Your Stamina!

Continue every day for ten more years, or whenever your schedule permits.

Don’t do things that are too demanding mentally. If you are in school, shoot for just passing grades. Same goes for jobs. Avoid ‘real jobs’ as long as possible. Always work below your potential so that you can give minimal effort. Don’t raise expectations! Show up just enough to not get fired.

Take jobs that enable your lifestyle: restaurants, bars, sales! Take this opportunity to travel on the drinking circuit. If you somehow save a little money, spend it on a weekend splurge/drunkfest with your friends. You deserve it!

Decade 2: Growing Up

You made it. Yay, you! Now it’s time to take a breather and begin some much needed work on maturing.

In your second drinking decade, you will begin to find helpful signs that you need to change. Some of these signs will be life’s typical milestones, coupled with this nagging feeling of wanting more. A dog? House? Marriage? Children?

One sign is that some of your drinking buddies are growing up as well. They won’t go out as much. They want to go home early, which is OK because, believe it or not, you will too! Sleep becomes more important. You will also start to get some serious feedback from your body that you can’t quite continue as you have been. Stubbornly slog through by drinking more, because persistence is key to the success of this plan.

Decade 3: The Home Stretch

You look like shit! (LOL!) No seriously. Your looks are going to slide this decade, but no worries. You will be in the kind of mental state where you notice this, but then it just gets added to the pile of other shitty things that are happening to you.

There’s so much to discover in this decade! And all you have to do is keep drinking.

Here’s a checklist of what to look out for:

  • Declining health (as mirrored in your looks).
  • Financial instability.
  • Cognitive decline, including long and short-term memory.
  • Hair loss.
  • Deeply troubled relationships.
  • Legal problems.
  • Loss of friends, except for other drinkers.
  • Plummeting self-esteem.
  • Comments from loved ones (whoever is remaining) about drinking habits.
  • Nagging thought that maybe alcohol has something to do with the state of your life.

During this decade, attempt to quit drinking for short periods of time. Then attempt for longer periods of time. Keep attempting, allowing a year or two between attempts. Or commit to every Monday for the entire decade. You choose!

Final Day

Wake up one day. You will be hungover, just like almost every other day. Attempt to quit, with just a whisper of hope that it might be possible. Ask for help.


31 thoughts on “Success! The 30-Year Plan to Sobriety

  1. Oh my god! You really called me out on the job part. Aim to work below your potential. Aim for passing grades only. This has been me my whole life. Never trying too hard, never doing more than is necessary to get by. How could I aim for more? I’ve been busy going out, and getting over hangovers. Sad.

    Wish I read this 10 years ago. Or maybe I wouldn’t have listened anyway?

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    1. I wouldn’t have listened ten years ago. It was so hard just to survive while drinking, much less take on additional challenges. I remember reading in a job description that I was thinking of applying for: “Must love a challenge.” I hated challenges! Waking up was a challenge. Getting to work on time was a challenge. Staying all day was challenge. On the flip side, I think you get this kind of urgency to jump-start your life once you stop drinking, as if you are making up for lost time. It’s a great incentive. ❤️
      Thanks for commenting.

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    1. I have transferred the starting Monday tradition to when I start my newest eating plan. Today is Monday, so I am recovering for a giant sugar/junkfood binge from having weekend guests. So the tradition continues ….


  2. This is so true. It takes so long to finally decide. Lots of half hearted attempts and many many years of slipping in and out. I’m in my 3rd decade of my drinking career and it had to get to to crisis point for me to really take it seriously. Besides my 2 slips I will have been sober for one year in September. What makes it different for me this time is that the lapses didn’t turn into relapses. I caved yes, under pressure but didn’t carry on and slip back into my old life. Finally ready to shed that skin that weighed so heavily on me. I have been conscious and present to tuck my children in at night for 98% of the days since I quit. That means everything to me.

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    1. That is a huge achievement! I never reached the 98% sober tucking in level. My sobriety mostly kicked in after they left the ‘nest.’ (Do you think there is a correlation there? Kids, stress, and drinking!) I think you are dead on with the key here: lapses don’t turn into relapses. I was NOT successful in that way, so must hope for total sobriety. My lapses could run for years inbetween attempts. It is FANTASTIC that you are heading up to a sober year. ❤️


    1. 255 days in is amazing, as I’m sure you know. 💕 And you’re right — had we used this dedication for good purposes, we’d all be millionaires by now. Or rocket scientists. But being sober bloggers beats closet drinkers any day.

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  3. I can still remember being 16, driving with some of my buddies to a place called “Mike’s Little Stop” which was basically a shack in the river bottoms near Ft. Worth. If you were big enough to hoist a 12 back up to the counter Mike would sell it to you. We would also buy a bottle of Boone’s Farm wine. We all thought the beer tasted so bad we would chase it down with the wine. Imagine that taste sensation. But it just went on from there and I looked up and I was 53. Much of it seems a blur.

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    1. I’m right there with you, just like a whole lot of high school students in those days. We drove to a little country store in NC where the guy would sell beer to young people. I do remember the Boone’s Farm and another wretched wine: TJ Swan. I believe is was around $2.00. I didn’t drink that much in high school, however. It took being away from home for alcohol to suddenly become readily available.
      I think drinking alters the way time passes. It keeps you so caught up in the day to day drama of drinking that you lose track of the years passing. And then it affects your memory so that you have very little recall of what happened anyway. Thereby, you get the blur you were talking about.

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