The Heroes of Addiction


What if, as I have been reading, life on earth is really just a classroom?

And what if only the hardiest souls choose to come to earth in the first place because of the turmoil and uncertainty they know they will face?

And what if, before you agreed to be born here, you got to choose what challenges you would face to guarantee the most dramatic advancement in your learning?

And what if, of the hardiest souls who come here at all, only the bravest choose to face the challenge of addiction?

And what if, having chosen to face this, all fell into place, as agreed upon, and you became addicted as planned, and not because you are weak and scattered and selfish?

And what if your addiction brought about the greatest possible learning experience for those around you because, like you, they chose to experience this time here, with you, and have learned immeasurably by watching you do battle with addiction?

And what if, just like in the movies, all the good guys in heaven and earth are put here to help the hero (you) overcome this addiction, and that all you have to do is reach out for help?

And what if, like in a good movie, you are guaranteed success? That you have already succeeded by accepting the challenge, because only the bravest of souls do?

And what if, as the hardiest of souls, agreeing to the hardiest of challenges, you are already a hero?


Here’s to you, my friend.

water toast cheers


34 thoughts on “The Heroes of Addiction

  1. I can’t for the life of me figure out why I relate so well to you (and others) and I’ve never suffered from addiction. I suppose it doesn’t really matter why, does it? Connections are connections and paths to healing are paths to healing…

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    1. Maybe we’re all on the same path to healing, regardless of how we were wounded. For me, it comes to back to self-love. We all were deprived of it in different ways, but we all need it to see who we really are — beloved in every way. I have to add this quote here because it’s so true:

      “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

      ― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”


    1. Thank you, Jami. I feel the same way. And you know what is strange? I know it’s true. The longer I am not drinking, the more compassion and respect I have for the woman who survived it. It’s not an easy path, but coming out the other side is like arriving with a well-earned pot of gold. We made it!!!


      1. I feel that way, too…sometimes. I think maybe when you come out the other side, you think you’re done. But you don’t realize that there’s more tunnels you have to go through, more storms, that you also have to get to the other side of… Over and over and over again. And it’s kind of deflating, thinking you’ve finally made it to the pot of gold, only to realize you have to work to get to a different pot of gold. A pot of gold doesn’t last like it used to….

        Anyway, I feel like just this morning, after reading this and after going to church and after sitting in my pool of emotions all week, I think maybe I just now came out the other side again💕

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      2. Jami, I know what you mean. I was listening to some podcasts from Gabrielle Bernstein while traveling (I’ve been out of town for two weeks), and she said to think of every ‘problem’ as an assignment. So the universe has assigned you this to learn something, do something, or change the course of someone’s life. She also talked about other people being a mirror to your inner state. By the end of this trip, the mirror showed me angry and manipulative people (on a small scale), and my assignment was to diffuse my own reactions and see what was really happening. To step back and have compassion instead of reacting. Not a particularly fun assignment, but when it was over, I felt kind of peaceful. Now I am just lolling around the house, gearing up for the next round.
        Love you! 💕


  2. I think it was you that said u had a experience like mine earlier if not doesnt matter. I always been a drinker blah blah (not about that its this post) i never really got stoned but any way i was think this day while stoned this thought which was deep deep that we chose our own struggles b4 we come to earth caz we can deal with them in the end and it takes away the pain of others frm going threw it but what happens is we also get the best outcome in life we cud imagine… i shit you not…..this happened fekin yrs ago i forgot about it till i read this post 😂😂 i am now swearing i have totally went insane and am asleep right now…its been a funy happy feked up few days long may this continue…im deffo due for the funny farm 😂😂😂😂😂😂 havnt smiled like this since i was tickled as a baby…..hope u have a beuatiful day along wit everyone else in the world who ever you are probably my neighbour fs 😂😂😂😂

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    1. We might be related! I did that ancestry DNA and have 9% Irish heritage. I do believe this to be true — that there is so much at play than we understand right now, but that it will all make sense in the long run.

      Have a wonderful day, Darren. ❤️


  3. Once again, you are spot on. You know, I was reading this reply this morning, as I was getting out of my car to see a patient. I was thinking, “God, this woman always seems to say exactly what I need to hear!” And I jokingly thought to myself about asking you guide me through the rest of my life, which made me laugh to picture you reading something like that…and I looked down and saw a blue feather at my feet. Never in my life have I seen a blue feather just lying around. Now, I can’t say for sure what a blue feather means…all I can say is that it felt significant to me. Sometimes, a feather is just a feather. But others times, a feather is a message. I guess I need to figure out what my “assignment” is, before I let it drown me in negative emotions.

    Thank you💕

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    1. I really did get a kick out of that! Especially since I had actually emailed Gabrielle Bernstein to see what she charged for mentoring. (A lot.) ha ha!

      On the amazing side, I saw a blue feather a few days ago, and remember wondering if it was from a bluejay or a bluebird, because I never see blue feathers. AND I had read a book about how your guardian angels leave feathers as signs of their presence, so I choose to think of this as a message from your angel to mine. 💕

      All kidding aside, I sometimes get strong feelings or messages for people when I am reading their blogs or comments. With you I feel a really strong connection often. Maybe we should talk in person sometime. I’m willing. And I’m not a weird stalker. Most of the time I can’t remember to call my own mother, much less find the time and energy to stalk someone by phone. ; )


      1. Are you serious? About all of this, ha ha…
        You saw a blue feather? I looked at it and wondered if it was a blue bird or a blue jay. And I actually used the word “mentor” as I was thinking about you. Crazy…

        And more importantly…yes, I would love to talk! And stalking is really just a form of flattery, isn’t it?😉

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      2. Very funny! I’m going to steal that one: “Stalking is really just a form of flattery.” I’ve had very few stalkers in my life. Maybe that’s the problem! Stalkers build self-esteem. ; )

        I am totally serious. I will send you my phone number via email (it will come up under the name Margot Smith — part of my former elaborate disguise system) and we can pick a time over the weekend or whenever you are not busy. It will be fun! 💕


      3. Sounds great! I emailed you last night. Hope I sent it to the right person….otherwise someone is waking up to some serious dysfunction from a perfect stranger😂


  4. Shawna, I am just getting around to reading the backlog of blog posts I have saved for myself. I love love love this. Such a brilliant and positive way of seeing the battle we are all fighting. It happens to be exactly what I needed to read today after a couple of off days have seen me cave. I’m moving forwards again and this angle of looking at things really speak to me today. Much love and thanks to you. xxx

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    1. Thank you, Julia! I believe that this is true. I’ve been traveling for the last two weeks, so like you, I am in a funk and trying to get back on the positive path, here in my cave. THANK YOU for your positive comments. It made my day. 💕


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